I'm almost ashamed to admit this but B. and I have only been on a date without baby once! since Micha arrived over 7 months ago. I know! Crazy, right?
That one time was on B.'s birthday, when Micha was 2 months old,
and all we could do, while we raced through dinner, was wonder how our baby was doing.
Of course he was perfectly fine at our friends where we had brought him, and we ended up spending the rest of the evening at their house while he slept peacefully.
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One of the reasons we haven't had many date nights is because both of our parents (people we trust with him) don't live very close by. Mine live in Benin, Africa (yes, you heard that right, more about that here) and B.'s parents live about an hours drive from us, which isn't ideal for just a few hours of babysitting.
That's one reason.
Another reason is that we don't want to burden our friends (who we trust with him as well). They have a little one of their own, a week younger that Micha, and while they tell us it's perfectly fine to bring him over, it feels like we're taking advantage of their kindness. I know, it probably has more to do with our feelings than with theirs.
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But the I think the real reason is that we just can't let go of our baby.
When I was pregnant, and even before, we swore that we wouldn't become those people ,
you know the ones that are super protective of their kids and won't let anyone near them.
Well, I think we kind of are.... womp, womp, womp.
We don't even take him to the church nursery on Sundays ( 'eww, the germs', 'what if they let him cry?', 'what if some other kid pops something in his mouth and he chokes?', 'he'll die there!')
While I think it's totally normal and okay to be protective of him, I don't want to be that couple that doesn't take time for each other since the baby arrived. It's not healthy at all!
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We need to practice in letting our baby go. We need start trusting others to take of our baby, like our friends or B.'s sister who would LOVE to watch him. And we need to trust that it will all be okay!
And that's exactly what we're going to do next week Friday! Me and the B. will be going on a date, I can't wait!
And this is what I will wear:
|don't mind the random baby paraphernalia|
|oops, should have sucked in the belly for this pic..|
and now for the sneakiest baby photo bomb....
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