Wednesday, March 20, 2013

Date Night and a sneaky baby

I'm almost ashamed to admit this but B. and I have only been on a date without baby once! since Micha arrived over 7 months ago. I know! Crazy, right?

That one time was on B.'s birthday, when Micha was 2 months old, 
and all we could do, while we raced through dinner, was wonder how our baby was doing.
Of course he was perfectly fine at our friends where we had brought him, and we ended up spending the rest of the evening at their house while he slept peacefully.

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One of the reasons we haven't had many date nights is because both of our parents (people we trust with him) don't live very close by. Mine live in Benin, Africa (yes, you heard that right, more about that here) and B.'s parents live about an hours drive from us, which isn't ideal for just a few hours of babysitting.
That's one reason.

Another reason is that we don't want to burden our friends (who we trust with him as well). They have a little one of their own, a week younger that Micha, and while they tell us it's perfectly fine to bring him over, it feels like we're taking advantage of their kindness. I know, it probably has more to do with our feelings than with theirs.

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But the I think the real reason is that we just can't let go of our baby. 
When I was pregnant, and even before, we swore that we wouldn't become those people , 
you know the ones that are super protective of their kids and won't let anyone near them.
Well, I think we kind of are.... womp, womp, womp.

We don't even take him to the church nursery on Sundays ( 'eww, the germs', 'what if they let him cry?', 'what if some other kid pops something in his mouth and he chokes?', 'he'll die there!')

While I think it's totally normal and okay to be protective of him, I don't want to be that couple that doesn't take time for each other since the baby arrived. It's not healthy at all!

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We need to practice in letting our baby go. We need start trusting others to take of our baby, like our friends or B.'s sister who would LOVE to watch him. And we need to trust that it will all be okay!


And that's exactly what we're going to do next week Friday! Me and the B. will be going on a date, I can't wait!


And this is what I will wear:




don't mind the random baby paraphernalia 

oops, should have sucked in the belly for this pic..


and now for the sneakiest baby photo bomb....




Love, Maria

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19 comments:

  1. Hmmm, I thought he was going to stay a week at our place when we are in Holland next month! We were planning to take him to the nursery at church and let the neighbourkids go for a walk with him and......too bad you won't let us........Love you anyways...your mamaMarijke
    <3

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    1. Maria and Bastiaan, have a great date though!!!

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  3. Love that outfit!

    Date nights are so important! I'm glad you're going!
    www.naturallycarly.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you Carly! And thanks for stopping by!
      xo

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  4. Pretty!! I'd love to babysit Micha too!

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    1. You're welcome to anytime! Next week friday? ;)

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  5. i love that photo bomb! very cute mixing neutrals and stripes!

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    1. what a little sneak hey? I felt kinda good in this outfit, it just worked! Happy when that happens!

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  6. Good idea. Allan and I need to go on a date soon too. And we have no excuse, since we have live-in babysitters :-).
    Very cute photo bomb. I want to babysit him!

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    1. Do it, you lucky, lucky woman!
      You're welcome to come over when ever you please!
      Love you sis!

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  7. ha that's an awesome photo bomb! And don't feel guilty, I think you are doing amazing going on your second! Want to know the last time Drew and I were alone outside of the house?? Try last March. As in over a year ago! Our family live over 700 miles away as well, so, just doesn't really happen! But we do have a night out planned in a couple of weeks when my mom is in town for the week!

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    1. I thought it was pretty funny! Good for you that you have a date night planned, it's tricky to plan one when your parents live so far away!

      If I lived closer to you, you could definitely drop them of at my place, Micha would have a ball!
      xo

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    2. I would LOVE to live in Holland :) Anywhere in Europe basically, we are trying to make it happen!

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  8. oh the last picture, so sweet! I really know what you mean, inbetween allday and everything we also forgot to take some time just for us as couple, now that we made more room for it, we realized how good that is from time to time. so happy dating:)
    If you like, you can play along the "5 things game"( http://ohiloveyoumydear.blogspot.de/2013/03/5-maybe-not-so-important-things.html), I tagged some of my favorite blogs, but feel totally free to play along or not...many greetings, noni!

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    1. It is so important to make time for each other, great that you're doing it too!

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  9. good for you guys for going on a date! You look so cute! love the sneaky baby picture :)

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